Core Message

Our ego is often the biggest obstacle to our success and growth. True achievement comes from focusing on doing rather than being, and from valuing purpose over external validation.

Key Themes

"You have a choice: you can try to be somebody impressive, or you can do something impressive."

When we chase after trying to be somebody, we take shortcuts and compromise our beliefs. But when we want to do something, we're motivated more by purpose than by external validation.

"When we want to do something, we are motivated more by our purpose than by the external validation that comes with trying to be somebody. We're willing to work hard, stay true to our purpose and our beliefs, and treat others generously."

The focus on doing rather than being leads to more authentic and sustainable success.

Key Insights

  • Focus on action and contribution rather than status and recognition
  • External validation can distract from meaningful work
  • True confidence comes from competence and achievement
  • Success often requires putting aside our desire to be seen as important